Why do some people get “better” and others don’t?

I’ve wrestled with this question a lot and found myself on both sides of this. There were many times throughout the years I spent bed-bound when I would watch friends with similar diagnoses improve while I continued to worsen. I was always happy for them and loved to celebrate their wins, but I’d be lying if I said it didn’t make me question what I was doing wrong to not also see improvement. 

As you all know, in the past 9 months, I’ve witnessed incredible improvement. But I’ve also watched some of my close friends’ health get worse as mine has improved. Once again, I’ve found myself questioning why some people see improvements and others don’t. It’s a helpless feeling watching the people you care about suffer.

I’ve found comfort in knowing that God is with us in our suffering, even when we may not feel His presence in the moment. Just as Jesus wept with His friends, empathizing with their pain and sorrow (John 11:35), I believe He weeps with us in our moments of deepest despair. While it’s natural to question why some people see improvements while others continue to suffer, I’ve come to understand that God’s ways are not always clear to us, but His love and compassion are unwavering, even in the midst of our most challenging times.

Instead of echoing a shallow, overly optimistic sentiment that everything happens for a reason, I want to express my heartbreak for those whose health is declining. I want you to know that I see you, and I empathize deeply with your struggles.